I obviously don’t mean “break the law” — so what do I mean?
I named this blog in 2010 in a moment of earnest sarcasm, but started posting only now in 2013.
To learn a LOT more about the topic, see Family Court Matters understanding that, no way am I going to put the effort into this blog that’s in the other one — can’t afford to. There’s still a cumulative effect of what was started many, many years ago by my simple belief that Child Support Enforcement meant that.
But today (4-26-2013) I published a “My Comments Your Blogs” page after attempting to convince yet another mother who is running a blog complaining about the problems in the family courts to quit complaining, start doing some homework, and develop a skillset; look up the financing; to quit having an “I can’t — I’m helpless! – help us!” passive attitude towards the most important topic around: the balance of power between individuals, and the state. That discussion is on their “About” page, here (I’m “Let’s Get Honest”).
[Blog moderator has since removed my work, at least from her “About” page. Fair enough, but suffice it to say, we had disagreements. I challenged her to make up her mind and use a little sort and select capacity, in respect for mothers surfing the internet desperate for help in their cases, does it make sense to promote fatherhood groups with the words “Violence Prevention” in their name somewhere, etc. If one really believes the author of “Top 5 HHS programs” had a handle on the situation, does it then make sense to post (as links on the blogrolls) other groups getting grants from them, or trying to get in on that piece of the action? Moreover, if any and all links are fair game (which was the typical answer), then why not a link to familycourtmatters.wordpress.com? Surely in about 600 posts there might be something useful for a protective parent somewhere?] Remind me to see whether ALL my contributions to that blog have been removed.]
The thing is, in this field, if you’re short information, or a way to sort through it, lives are at risk and in most court cases, the clock is ticking fast. Therefore confused but voluminous blogs which attract readership to (what? Confused assemblage of references) can cost those lives. Mostly, while I realize it takes all types, I was most frustrated with the “passive” attitude towards “anything goes — except your stuff (as to putting up a link)” thinking that indicates if something sounds authoritative, we’ll post it — but if it requires us to determine whether or not it is authoritative and reject those that aren’t — forget it.
So, rather than go periodically nuts conversing with this situation, I would put out comments periodically so at least there was a footprint, for some — as have done elsewhere around the net. Almost no one goes systematically through the system, describes it, names it, and labels the sectors thumbs-up or thumbs-down; That is, after doing the homework to see which piece goes where.
Which brings us back to the title of this blog: The child support system was known to be key, apparently by those who set it up; it can create endless conflict, and it gives an excuse for government to reach into almost ALL forms of business and commerce and demand compliance and reporting (i.e. “New Hires”).
It provides excuses to churn child support cases, and presents a face to the public that government is the good guy– because it’s reducing the cost of welfare. However, a look at the CAFR angle shows that this is mostly fraud anyhow. Governments, collective, that is, have been operating at major profits for a long time now, while selling “Deficit.” Technospeak — if the budget alone is considered, yes, “Deficit.” If the collective holdings, Hardly. It’s a matter of adjusting legislation and practices to the reality (I’m talking “Burien” and if you want to understand it better, go to his site, or my main site referencing this in re: family court funding; there is a post at the top).
Many of the current child support contracting agencies were formerly defense contractors. Go figure! We should still give them much, much more business such that when they are sued for breach of contract with individual states, they have enough wiggle room to pay the multi-million-dollar settlements? What’s wrong with that picture? (Maximus (all over), Hewlett-Packard in South Carolina, etc.). Again WHY do we need to keep all Americans (US citizens) on multiple forms of commercial tracking devices — while failing to collect anything “under the table” from noncustodial fathers (and, now more of the noncustodial parents being mothers), as I experienced in my case — they were just “oh so helpless” to serve a seek-work order on a man known to be in court HERE at such and such a date and time?
To make it clear — I was the custodial parent owed a minimal payment per month. the system solution was, rather than get that collected, let it run up, help the Dad in court?, and compromise arrears after custody switch. His main motive for actually paying have been removed, this father then dumped off his kids with the girlfriend and went back to harassing me periodically (it’s called stalking) — to this year — sometimes right during a work, or “replace that last round of lost-income” activity.
The system needs to be shut down. We’d be much better off without it (and the place would be more honest). It is not being USED for the purpose it was ADVERTISED for.
I’ve done similar type commentary on other sites blogging specific cases, such as in Carver County MN. [Just in case THAT forum goes down, uploaded here See ‘LetsGetHonest’ Comments on 4:17:2013 MN blog “CarverCountyCorruptn (Theresa Katka CPS case)=33pp”]
I used to even time how long it took to find who’s doing what (on-line) in a jurisdiction (usually it’d been ignored) as a teaching point for some, and a learning point for me. This wasn’t philanthropy on my part! It’s like insisting on individual dogfights throughout the country while refusing to look at published blueprints about the strategy, supply lines, tactics and practices of the supposedly supposing sides — it makes no sense!
An extended version of my hanging out in one jurisdiction and reporting on it, with others (this one included also some significant contact off-line with people involved, court lookups, real estate deed lookups and more) occurred in Lackawanna County, Pennsylvania on the Scranton Political Times.
[2014 update — a forum which has since gone down, which means most links in the next paragraph are defunct. That’s OK (kinda); material was saved, other people are around still and in touch with each other…]
I walked in Seeing the System (which revolved around a certain GAL and Parent Coordinator connecting at AFCC and other conferences). They are only now getting around to targeting another (Brenda Kobal), but again, in a personal and character-assassination manner, rather than in a teaching systems manner. Several of us already knew that Kobal was probably more critically positioned than their targeted GAL, Danielle Ross. However on the “Lackawanna Family Court” topic, under username OutlawWild_DoubleBill_Kickback Courts [lists names of various court funds, although mistakenly for CA, not PA. May be parallels in PA), and another, “ReadMyLipsReadTheir990s” (hint, hint!) (under an image of two turkeys) I laid out what I could, by topic, while learning myself. For example, topic “GAL Schematics” (notice there are also links on the bottom of each message, the multi-colored bars). In fact, 8 links, including one to “CAFRs”). In another topic, you can see I was beginning to consider the ABA as a “very large corporation” and that topic, in general.
In August 2012, I also laid out “CAFRs” [Scranton at the time was going Bankrupt. I pulled out their comprehensive annual financial reports and talked about the] as a topic. After quitting one time, previously, rejoining somehow, I finally got bounced off the (volatile) forum. Good riddance, no problem! For those who may want to engage, be aware that the forum itself had a “custody battle” between the Pilcheskys, there was a restraining order, lawsuits (he won) and she went to jail on fiduciary fraud or something similar (I believe having been set up), and there are more usernames than actual users on the forum. probably a factor of 1:##?) I.e., the moderator would make usernames up and start fights with himself when things got slow. That said, he had the wherewithal to get receipts for the local parent coordinator, and post them. What I felt was that the macho ego was actually driving away information from the locality. On the other hand, they were extremely tolerant of my posting so much, and most of it still seems to be up there — F.Y.I. I hung out there for the duration of the learning curve. Forums highlight the dialogue. I am more interested in the systematic presentation of information so those who want to act on or find related information, can.
Being naturally into teaching others (no one likes to sit on this type of revolutionary knowledge alone!), with the goal of saving lives and reducing trauma, devastation and homelessness through the courts — I am already into one or two other major topics; which this doesn’t fit into. I didn’t want to interrupt that flow, and so moved over here. So in a sense, another blog has to serve another purpose. That one is already daunting to look at. This one says “CHILD SUPPORT” so it’s obviously going to be about money.
The only way I can get THIS one published today is by just speaking. I’m as deductive reasoner, voracious reader, and a lifelong musician who has experienced long-term trauma from ongoing violence and threats in marriage, and absolutely worse shocks and senses of betrayal after having to resort to legal means (DV restraining order with kickout) to avoid becoming a headline.
That headline may have been limited to me, him, me and or him, or the familicide. I have in prior years lived without major problems in high-homicide rate urban areas; but I have never experienced the degree and level of literal fear of sudden death by sociopath that I did — for years; in and out of marriage. Be assured, this is going to affect people who have come close to the situation more than those who have not, when there are similar events happening nationally and locally, which “but for the grace of God” could’ve been yourself, or your children.
After that, here came the family courts of America, and I began to live what thousands (male and female) are now in the second or third generation of: After 1970s, no-fault divorce, the implied “fault” became divorce itself. Formerly one had actual causes of action, named, specifically. Now, they are all, including the commission of a felony crime, lumped under “irreconciliable differences,” and from there on, handled by “conciliation courts,” all the while, someone has a child support order, often enough.
Multiple industries have developed along this “fault” line — and most of them, it turns out, are supported and funded up-front by the public through paying the civil servants in those industries, and through their own taxes. It also was an intentional and pre-meditated (sold as responsive to the situation and needs-based) to better facilitate certain professional fields, such as forensic psychiatry and the nearby-wannabes, forensic psychologists to explain away such things as murder [[warning: disturbing!#! case] or sexual assault of minors by their caretakers or relatives[Censorship of Freud’s 1895 concerns on this related]. And produce ongoing subject matter, ongoing, of traumatized, and poor people for further research and demonstration projects.
To reiterate the connection between the fields of psychoanalysis (and the related ones, psychiatry/psychology) and the family courts of today, who bring on these precise types of personnel for custody evaluations in cases where now, these assaults may have actually been reported to law enforcement, or other authorities — In 1984, Jeffrey Moussaieff Masson in The Atlantic, from his position of access to the Freud Archives, published “Freud and the Seduction Theory, a Challenge to the Foundations of Psychoanalysis made it clear that he saw a pattern of censorship by Anna Freud in the publication of his first set of her father’s letters, suppressing and diminishing that Freud actually believed his patients’ accounts, that in a presentation of 1896 called “The Etiology of Hysteria,” spoke about them — and was stonewalled by his colleagues. Rather than quote here, hover cursor over the link in this paragraph, or just read! about what happened AFTER he gave a paper that would’ve made him “one of those who disturbed the sleep of the world.” The address presented a revolutionary view of mental illness…” In the 1950s, they couldn’t talk about it. In the 1980s, either, apparently.
In 1996 Congress passed Welfare Reform [Under These Conditions// See Newt Gingrich, Republican Pressure, Clinton Administration, etc.) passed certain provisions which made it even harder for these violent actions upon either women or children (boy and girl), which now had criminal laws to protect them, as never before (to my knowledge), to be funneled off into specialty courts where the same type of personnel could continue to ply their wares — only this time with patients coming straight in from the courts, or social services. My other blog talks more about that.
Apparently society is willing to continue to let professionals continue talking about it, rather than to actually stop engaging in this same cruel and violent behavior upon the defenseless, and their mothers, and in then continuing to make up new names for those who protest. One difference however, is the scope and extent of profits to be made by studying it, labeling it, and denying it, ie., in the booming behavioral health profession. Rather than dissociating from the violent practice, it seems we have instead adoptive (as did even “the seduction theory” wording back then), more cognitively dissonant terminology for the exact same thing. And we have set up cognitively dissonant institutions to handle the fact that, children and adults WILL continue to report on these things.
Here’s one example from Georgia. (18 months total in jail, falsification of docket number, party’s name, arrest records, you name it). Here, from Connecticut involving a GAL (also mentioned on the “Assembled Arguments” page). Here’s one regarding what looks like a group called Maximus, ah, “maximizing” its profits through stalking a father through Georgia, Tennessee, and Arizona. Here’s CEO with deep pockets has ex-wife and two children on Food Stamps in Alabama. From “LegalSchnauzer” blog, Feb. 2013 (Alabama)
In this same one, it appears a prior wife attempted to warn the woman, it wasn’t her, but her sons, the guy was after.
The unlawful outcome of Rollins v. Rollins becomes even more alarming when you consider that Ted Rollins, who belongs to one of the nation’s wealthiest family, now is CEO of Campus Crest Communities. That company builds student housing near public universities around the country and has received more than $400 million in Wall Street backing. Ted Rollins’ chief market is young people and their parents–even though he has a documented history of abusing young people.
I’m not interested in trying to keep up with the anecdotes or news headlines. No Can Do!
Obviously there is a method to all this madness, and as the purpose does seem to be using, and abusing others while making sure not to get caught, or billed too much for it, I decided, rather than go mad by hanging out with the madness, to look [somewhat] methodically, and consistently, at the systems behind this.For example the Child Support System is a money-maker: when one party wants to get out of it, and the other one needs it to pay bills, there’s just too danged much opportunity for the carpetbaggers! These carpetbaggers often have foundation funding, sometimes Ph.D.s, and they work closely and often on obtaining government grants from the HHS/OCSE sector to demonstrate how to reduce poverty by diverting money into demonstrating and practicing social science theories on social security (welfare) recipients. So there are “Section 1115 Waivers” [slow-loading link…] on what these grants can be used for.
There’s no end of arguing pro and con. Abusers don’t routinely fess up, and people who aren telling the truth about abuse (this includes kids), especially women, don’t appreciate being called “hysterical” now any more than they did in Freud’s day. And in a just and logical world without proliferating courts where irreconciliable differences (I had one – with violence; others have one with extreme mental cruelty, or abandonment, or adultery, etc.) are brought into conciliation or “family” courts — both of which were institutions created in this country post-“The Etiology of Hysteria” and which have at their foundational premise, “bring on the psychologists!” In reality, it’s a mental health archipelago.
Sometimes I will take several “runs” at a subject matter to get the point across. You will see it here. I’m putting information out, and if a reader wants to talk about it, submit a comment! If you’re not a reader and thinker, and haven’t experienced some rough times (or trauma) in your life, there may not be a lot of commonality, but it’s worth a try.
This child support system has become so perverted to tweak the “gender wars” in the custody courts that it has become a genuine monster. In order to survive, navigate, and retain some coherent integrity (purpose) in life, after seeing (along with oh so many) a work life (income-producing, that is) literally destroyed through repeated economic assault-and-battery, a man or woman really has to decide, “where do I stand?” in regards it.
I am aware of nothing I personally did to deserve so much “hell” in life other than having worked most of the time to bring a piece of heaven into others through the creative arts, in which I happily worked (with degree/s) for many years before getting married at a good age (not too old, not too young) and mistakenly believed that being on the same page faith-wise was a good thing.
The school of hard knocks in that category caused me to re-tool my “professional” mindset to understand the weaknesses of our society to the extent, we don’t have a grasp of ALL its major systems. I have always known, from my family background that it’s primarily the military and government interests that sponsor a lot of technological breakthroughs, and that this also affects what’s studied in universities.
Now, I have a perspective also to add how the technological AND political revolutions post-internet have intersected to head towards a completely managed society. From my understanding of how one abuser, then a family, and the family courts if you will, “SOP’s” (i.e., the ugly Standard Operating Procedures), there is a uniformity of practice which comes from a uniformity of intent behind the driving forces. And the lens through which to look at this, at least the lens with (from what I can tell) one of the broadest, universal applications — is the lens of one thing:
HOW is income produced, collected, invested, and redistributed to harvest profits? And why are smart “educated” people acting like sheep in certain categories? I’m not the only person on this page. Expressed one way (and a post in draft elsewhere):
Let’s review that again: ANY “Benefits paid in both systems are a way to collect revenue.” . . . government that no longer belongs to the people . . . . taken from the taxpayer base and invested in . . . . . everything else that is ruining the financial structure of the world. . . .and the livelihood of all the people.”
So is the Child Support System. Do we have even a concept of what this represents??? It’s time to get literate!
Another funny (?) one from the same guy: CAFR School: The Vatican is Broke?? starts and ends like this:
Vatican posts $19 million deficit, worst in years
By NICOLE WINFIELD
The Associated Press
In the end, if you understand what has been written here, then you understand the entirety of the government investment scheme. And you understand that the people of America are wealthy beyond imagination, but that wealth is being hidden in plain sight while government creates welfare programs to sustain the poverty level while collecting even more taxes from the poor – never fixing the very problem of poverty because that is the only thing that will create wealthy men and corporations.
Welcome to America… a potential heaven on earth, kept in purgatory by government obfuscation and hoarding of its actual wealth.
[[This makes more sense when “CAFRs” are comprehended, which they should be! My summary (with links & credits), HERE]]
Consider: if I as a woman who has needed child support to survive, many times (and who was at one time either demanding the courts give me, a mother, protection so I could support our family — or enforce their gol-danged minimum level child support order which they, not I, jumpstarted) if I can say BOYCOTT CHILD SUPPORT, then I hope others will understand how serious it must be. It is a net to haul in fishes out of the sea and then play ball with the little fishies lives, and to do this through the family court system.
Do the fish know what’s going on before they get hauled in? No.
Do the fish sometimes go for bait? Yes.
Do you understand the bait? The promised bait is financial support for minor children who need that support. The HOOK is, by accepting this (and particularly any Title IV-D cases; I understand some may not be “Title IV-D” — which is a section of Social Security Act dealing with Child Support, as Title IV-A deals with Aid/Food stamps and Title IV-E deals with foster care, etc.).
Once anyone is hooked, that is, into the welfare system WITHOUT seeking a child support order even (but so doing assigns rights of collection to the County) or intentionally seeking a child support order — game’s on! And guess who doesn’t know the rules? (Most of the pieces on the playing board = the families involved. They have no idea who has a vested interest in this matter, and how high it goes… or how broad it spreads….).
To reiterate — I’m not advocating failure to pay, working under the radar, or not supporting one’s children, or any illegal or immoral activity. That said, this system is itself immoral.
To mothers leaving abuse — who probably need this more than anyone: If you take social services in some form, a child support order will be entered, and your abuser will be encouraged to start a custody fight for you. If he doesn’t do it voluntarily, there are ways to encourage him to, which I have seen. He may even get legal support (free) for it in a venue for which there is no “motherhood.gov” site. So, I”m saying, if there’s another way.
Then again, there’s an unbelievable push to get men to register even who they’ve been having sex with who MIGHT later give birth. Amazing? (yep, it is). Look up “Putative Father Registries.” Allegedly this is to reduce poverty, crime, and protect children. That’s bull-shit — it’s for marketing, and to get more social security numbers hooked up. See Boot Camp for New Dads and other programs. I also have heard unbelievable stories (lots of them) of men who with premeditation, conceived babies and then abused them to get into the system; the word is getting out, you can get away with abuse once that restraining order is filed. It will be removed soon enough, so not to worry for too long.
To the public: This system has to be stopped. It is not tracking its own monies; it has too many diversions, and –this really is the bottom line – it’s getting people killed. It’s shifting the economy from working people (and using money obtained from them UP FRONT– but not even really needed to provide the services) to the social services sector — which is to say civil servants (public employees) and the private sector to which services are contracted out.
Which avoids the anti-trust, anti-monopoly laws, and conceals the money trail or makes it a lot harder to follow. I have concluded that (especially as so few people are even willing to face this, and do something to track it systematically) that the better alternative was to somehow boycott it.
This system tries to direct work traffic to certain sectors and away from other sectors. It supports cheating. It incites child custody fights which wouldn’t otherwise happen. I don’t know how much worse it could possibly get than taking the worst sectors of society, including men in prison for violent crimes, and trying to USE small children to “domesticate” their wild instincts, at public expense. What about their mothers?
What about the right of their mothers to form other relationships and move on? There’s no question that men also do this — and there’s also little question that Congress itself isn’t particularly known for monogamy.
If it cannot be boycotted, it certainly must be discussed. Feel free! But read the links first! Because I hang out with, and am, a person who can show (not just tell) how there’s a deliberate and systematic effort by private nonprofit corporations of public civil servant professionals to continue expanding the welfare case loads beyond low-incvome people (already done) with the goal of simply putting everyone on a measured, computerized income-tracking base, and under scrutiny and control.
The same organizations, corporations, and civil servants doing this are hardly themselves under control, open to full scrutiny (in fact, there’s a high-ranking former HUD official who states that this is where a lot of the Black Ops runding comes from). Fair’s fair, in my opinion.
I haven’t yet figured out the best way to present this. If you have ideas (after taking a look at the material), please comment. The challenge is, it takes data entry, or system software support that isn’t free. The government first pours its money (in any new policy) into setting up their websites and “resource centers” — I’ve seen it. While the public’s access to information they need to keep government in check, is unwieldy, in separate and noncohesive databases, which are also highly inaccurate (sometimes deceitfully — on purpose), and dont’ enable US to run meaningful search, select, and choose the field reports on them.
Narrative mode isn’t going to work, obviously. I am just putting certain information on-line FYI.
We need to talk about it from the macro scale of FINANCES, and movement of wealth and assets from one sector of the population to another, not to mention money that goes missing in the middle.